The Tantric Technique Designed To Give You Multiple Orgasms

Psalm Isadora is the leading tantra specialist in the world, and a sought-after sexuality, relationship, and trauma specialist specializing in modern sexual instruction and authorization as well as girls’s wellness. For more of Psalm’s insights on the tantric method of relationships and sex, explore her course, Tantra 101: Awaken Your Sexuality & Deepen Your Mind-Body-Soul Link.

A big part of sacred sexuality is learning to love the organ rather than be afraid of it.

This Lingam London massage I will be instructing you can be done two ways. The first is for men to learn, so they can practice edging on themselves via masturbation.

In the second method, the man is given the massage by a partner. It can be foreplay or an independent act to sex.

 

Many girls I work with are not completely comfortable with handling the dick of a guy. Take time to reflect on any negative impressions you may have inherited from your own parents or your culture, if that's the case for you.

In Tantra, we join with our partner on your own level. In addition, we associate with energy that is in our partner's body as an energetic life force or the worldwide sexual chi. One means to do that is through the lingam massage. Yes, this really is a fancy name for a hand job. But it is done with more thoughtfulness, respect, care, and desire to bring selfless delight to your own partner.

Unlike your typical hand job, the lingam massage affects not only massaging and stroking the member but may also incorporate more complex techniques, including the testicles, perineum, and the Sacred Spot (aka the prostate) as well.

Lingam is the Sanskrit word for dick and loosely translates to "wand of light." In Tantra doctrine, we approach member, or the lingam, from a spot of admiration and the utmost love, the same way we approach the yoni, or vagina. Bringing a partner happiness through his “wand of light us filled with light or that same energy in a conscious exchange of energy in giving and getting pleasure.

Lingam massage is a practice that really honors a man. We do it to give joy to him. There's also a tremendous amount in a man's dick of sexual energy or chi. Learning circulate and the way to stimulate it is extremely strong.

As soon as I visited India to examine yoga and Tantra, I was shocked initially to see statues of the Shiva lingam that symbolized the God Shiva. For most folks, it represents a state of meditation. But for early Tantric professionals, this held a secret significance: that this powerful God energy was in the man's body but notably in the dick, which includes the most masculine essence concentrated in one place.

 

So, to really have sacred sex, you need certainly to approach the body of the man as a temple and his penis as the most holy place of all.

This isn't about having one orgasm and being done. Instead, it's about attempting to feel increasingly more enjoyment that'll become tides of multiple orgasms through the massage.

 

Here's just how to perform a lingam organ massage on your partner.

 

For guys who want to use this for practice that is sacred for energy and masturbation cultivation, follow precisely the same directions yourself.

1. Get him relaxed.

Have your partner lie on his back he's comfortable. He might enjoy a pillow under his head and under his hips. His legs should be spread apart with his knees bent, so you've easy accessibility to all parts of his genitalia. Remind him to breathe deeply. This can assist in a deeper relaxation.

2. Don't forget to breathe.

Respiration is what distinguishes Tantra from routine sex. Be sure to breathe the Ecstasy Breath: to receive his energy of pleasure and arousal on the inhale while you give your partner the lingam massage and send him loving energy.

This specific respiration will bring three advantages to you:

1. You'll have a deeper feeling of meditation or worship and mindfulness.

2. It will make you more empathetic to his ideas and feelings.

3. It will heighten your intuition that is sexual —you'll be more mindful of what your partner wants without him having to inquire.

3. Support your partner to breathe deeply.

By participating in the ecstasy breath collectively before you begin the lingam massage, tune into your partner. Just taking a few breaths at exactly the same time will set you both at ease and match your bio-rhythms. Keep reminding him to breathe deeply while you give the massage to him, relax, and receive all the great feelings.

4. Lubricate and massage around the organ.

Use your favorite massage oil (I prefer coconut oil because it smells yummy) to oil the shaft of the penis and his testicles. Start by sliding your hands along his thighs before addressing the good stuff. This may also make him feel less tense. Compliment him on something you like about what you are seeing and touching.

Move onto the testicles. Softly massage them. It is possible to use your fingernails gently on his testicles, or pull on them slightly. You fondle them and can also cup them in your hands.

Massage the area around his testicles and penis (i.e., the pubic bone in the front, the inner part of his thighs, and his perineum—or taint—which is the area between the testicles and the anus).

Be careful with the balls. Guys differ significantly as to the type of touch they like. Some guys are more sensitive or ticklish than others. It's OK to ask him how he likes them touched even as you begin fondling them, or before you start.

5. Massage the penis.

He is certainly needing more and once you have teased the areas around the dick, move to the shaft of the dick. Alter your grip from more challenging to lighter. Vary your stroke sequences between directly down and up and a wriggling movement.

Vary the actions from one hand to two hands. Switch between using the left hand and the right hand, when using only one hand.

Vary the speed. Begin slowly and build around a tempo that is more rapid, then take it back to a speed that is slow . Keep switching the pressure, speed, rhythm, and approaches.

Also, the penis that is alternate strokes to start from the origin of the penis all the way up to the head. Once at the head, you are able to continue the movement that is straight up and down, or you can do the twist— going from the cause of the shaft and stopping just below the point of the penis.

 

Variety is the key here.

When using two hands, you can do it a few distinct ways:

1. Both hands hold the member in exactly the same direction with the fingers pointing exactly the same manner.

2. One hand holds the member facing the other hand and one way faces the other way.

3. Both hands move up and down at exactly the same time. Oil is your friend here. It helps create a sleeker, gliding movement.

4. The bottom hand moves up and down while the top hand does a swirling/twisting activity at the point of the member.

6. Don't let him finish. Keep him at the edge of orgasm.

Chances are, he might desire to come and might be very worked up. If you're paying close focus on his moaning, and his respiration his body is moving, you should be able to predict if he is nearing climax.

When you see him at that edge, pull back on what you're doing, or only slow it down and remind him to breathe and ride the wave of orgasmic feelings he's experiencing.

He might go from being rock hard to semi-hard. Do not worry. That's what is supposed to occur.

7. Excite the place that is sacred externally.

The Sacred Place is the prostate, which will be a walnut-size gland located between the bladder and the penis. It's quite pleasurable for guys, when provoked properly.

You are able to obtain the prostate either internally (by adding your fingers or a prostate massage sex toy into the anus) or externally (through massaging the outside without penetration).

If your guy is not experienced with prostate massage, begin externally. To locate the spot that is holy, try to find an indentation someplace between the size of a walnut and a pea between the anus and the testicles. Shove gently inward. Be careful to go slowly and let him lead you in relation to pressure.

Massage it by shoving in again, then backing off and shoving in with your fingers or knuckles when you reach the right place. You can even use a circular massage motion. Use more oil so you could get to the place more easily if he is especially hairy. Or even better, ask him if it is possible to shave him for easier accessibility.

8. Excite the spot that is sacred internally.

Ask your man if he is enthusiastic about taking the prostate massage to another level having an internal massage. You'll want to loosen up his anus if he is game. Begin by massaging the outside of the anus with your fingers in a slow, smooth, and gentle circular motion. Do not add a finger. Inquire if he's prepared for more.

Make sure his anus and your fingers are oiled up, if he is prepared for insertion. Make sure your nails do not have any edges that are jagged. By adding merely the tip of one finger at first start. Wiggle it forth and back to loosen him up. Once he is comfortable with that, you'll be able to add your finger(s) more deeply, as the prostate is about two to three inches inside the anus, closer to the anterior wall of the rectum.

Once there, you'll be able to gently caress it by moving your finger from side to side, up and down, or "milking" it with a come hither motion with your finger(s). Ask him how he's doing as you go. Let him guide.

Prostate massage can sometimes be difficult to do with fingers, which will be why so many sex toy businesses now sell prostate massagers you could use when you are prepared to take it to the next level.

9. End the massage.

You can allow him to climax with an ejaculation orgasm or move onto sex to stop the massage. If he is practicing semen retention, it is possible to have all his juices are held by him as he learns to transmute the climax from the genitals into whole body energy climaxes. Our Google+.